Cheaters

 

IF YOU THINK THEY ARE CHEATING, THEY PROBABLY ARE...

 

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Why Do They Cheat?........Because they can!

 

By the time you call a private investigator, you have seen the signs of cheating behavior by your spouse or significant other. You are scared. You are experiencing extreme anxiety. You can’t eat. You can’t sleep. The cheater wants you to think YOU are the crazy one. You are not crazy. Do not question your sanity. The cheater will blame you.  That's what they do.

 

Call us. We will find the truth. We understand the mind of the cheater.


SECURITY CODE ON THE CELL PHONE

 

The cheating partner will put a code on their phone to keep you from seeing their activity.  When you ask the cheating partner why they put a code on their phone they will make up a good excuse that they believe justifies their behavior.  People with nothing to hide have nothing to hide. Do you have a security code on your phone? You probably do not have a code. You have nothing to hide, right?  Not true with the cheater.

 

HIDES THE CELL PHONE

 

The cheating spouse will frequently hide their cell phone.  The cheater does not want you to see when they get a text or when their phone rings.  The cheater will carry the phone with them on their person. Many times the cheater will take the phone to bed with them and put it under their pillow or in their pajama pocket.  The cheater can't risk you getting into their phone to see their activity. If the cheating partner does not have a code on their cell phone, they will erase their call log and their text logs to keep you from viewing their activity.

 

COMES HOME LATE FROM WORK OR LEAVES EARLY FOR WORK

 

The cheating spouse will come up with an array of excuses to be late coming home from work.  Sometimes the cheater will start leaving early for work. The cheater may tell you they are going to the gym to work out before or after work, when in fact they are not.  The cheater may lie about having to work late or go into work early. Sudden changes in the cheater's schedule will be a clue. Any changes in the cheater's regular schedule should be suspicious to you.

 

I LOVE YOU.  I'M JUST NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU ANYMORE

 

This is a common phrase spoken by a cheater.  The cheater doesn't want to come out and say they don't love you so they rephrase it to something they feel is less hurtful.  Classic line.

 

IF I DIDN'T LOVE YOU I WOULDN'T BE WITH YOU

 

This is another classic line spoken by the cheater.  The cheater is trying to convince you their mere appearance is proof they love you.  The cheater wants you to believe these one liners so they can continue to cheat behind your back.

 

THE CHEATER STARTS ARGUMENTS FREQUENTLY

 

It is almost humanely impossible to cheat on someone that you dearly love and get along with.  The cheating spouse and cheating partner has to create a rift between the two of you. This gives the cheater (in their mind), justification to walk out the door and justification to cheat.  The cheating partner needs to psychologically create the opportunity to walk out the door. This happens in nearly every cheating case.

 

IF YOU ARE GOING TO ACCUSE ME OF CHEATING I MIGHT AS WELL CHEAT

 

Oh how the cheater likes to pass the buck.  The cheating spouse projects all blame onto the partner for their cheating ways.  This statement is another justification in the cheater's mind to continue his cheating.  You don't trust the cheater, so the cheater will just "show you". Again this is classic cheating behavior.

 

I NEED TO MOVE OUT BECAUSE I NEED TIME TO THINK ABOUT US

 

If you hear this statement from your cheating partner or cheating spouse, you can rest assured that they are most likely seeing another person regularly and want to put their toe in the water to see if this other relationship is going to work before they completely cut ties with you.  Very seldom does a separation work to strengthen a marriage (unless recommended by a marriage counselor for specific reasons). This particular activity by the cheater is the tell tale sign that he or she is amping up the cheating activity.

 

DEFENSIVE WHEN YOU CONFRONT THEM ABOUT POSSIBLE CHEATING BEHAVIOR

 

If you decide to ask your cheating spouse a question about their recent behavior don't expect them to respond in a calm manner.  When a person is guilty of something, they are usually defensive and angry. Think about this........if your spouse asked you if you were cheating on them, would you get mad?  Or, would you want to put their mind at ease and be understanding and empathetic of their fear? A cheater gets downright mad when you confront him. This anger is a tell-tale sign that something is not right.  Again, a person with nothing to hide has no reason to be angry.

 

YOU ARE THE CRAZY ONE

 

Last but not least, accusing you of being the problem in the relationship is par for the course.  The cheating spouse or cheating partner will tell you that YOU are the problem and you are crazy and imagining things and you are falsely accusing them.  You are not crazy. You are not the problem. Cheaters don't self reflect on their behavior. Cheaters project their behavior onto you. Don't take the blame.  It is not yours to own.

 

SIGNS OF CHEATING

 

  • Hides cell phone

  • Puts a pass code on their cell phone

  • Erases text messages

  • Erases call log

  • Comes home late regularly

  • Pays more attention to their dress

  • Lack of attention to you

  • Starts doing their own laundry

  • Defensive when confronted

  • Online while you are sleeping

  • MAKES YOU THINK YOU ARE CRAZY